tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post5822879534600757930..comments2024-01-30T05:22:06.674-08:00Comments on A Majority of Two: Workplace BulliesJohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03382221688268676914noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-32006337759276726192009-07-15T19:48:55.147-07:002009-07-15T19:48:55.147-07:00Omigosh...! Thank you for all your comments. It&...Omigosh...! Thank you for all your comments. It's funny how we all have a common thread of a workplace bully. I had no idea it was so widespread. Our office bully was not at work today, so it was rather a peaceful day for me. But workplace bullying can be demoralizing and degrading for everyone involved. It's a <em>joy</em> when they are not there...! :-)Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03382221688268676914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-55062470515873971762009-07-15T19:28:09.544-07:002009-07-15T19:28:09.544-07:00Yeah, unfortuanately, there are those bullies ever...Yeah, unfortuanately, there are those bullies everywhere...they are not happy, so no one else can be happy. Sad.Alexandra MacVeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17317852980496492650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-34406321838013641392009-07-15T09:44:24.070-07:002009-07-15T09:44:24.070-07:00Oh my goodness, as I read your post I thought that...Oh my goodness, as I read your post I thought that you must work with a real doozy, because this has come up before. Then I read everyone's responses and realized how very common this is! <br /><br />The work I do, I do from home so I haven't been in a typical workplace environment for almost ten years. I guess I'd forgotten how common a problem this is. <br /><br />Good luck and may there be better days in the future for all of you facing these difficulties! I'm be over here being extremely aware of how fortunate I am, and being grateful for it too!Land of shimphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15671954452597068904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-81084221993458595462009-07-15T09:13:48.555-07:002009-07-15T09:13:48.555-07:00Ooops, looks like my link didn't take. I'l...Ooops, looks like my link didn't take. I'll try it again. <br /><br />http://eatinghabit.wordpress.com/<br /><br />Thanks!Mary Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07835150057881066641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-63445677646703666042009-07-15T09:12:31.126-07:002009-07-15T09:12:31.126-07:00Jo-
I hope you don't mind the "off topic...Jo-<br /><br />I hope you don't mind the "off topic" comment I'm making, but I wanted to let you know I've expanded my blogging to another blog which has nothing to do with politics...but is a cooking blog. I think it will be fun, and hope you (and of course, any of your blogging friends here!) can check it out. It's not going to just be recipes, but a lot more than that, it's a work in progress. <br /><br />Here's the <a rel="nofollow">link</a> and you could also find the link on the sidebar of Bad Habit. <br /><br />If you don't want this message on your blog, feel free to delete me and accept my apology...just wasn't sure if you'd get a chance to see I've got something new cooking up...ok, that last pun was a groaner. Sorry. ;-)Mary Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07835150057881066641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-8258433213188940862009-07-15T08:33:34.136-07:002009-07-15T08:33:34.136-07:00I like to call them work place CANCER...they sprea...I like to call them work place CANCER...they spread and want to hurt everything in reach.Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09076194149640604198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-73637881410808217952009-07-15T08:28:30.338-07:002009-07-15T08:28:30.338-07:00This post reminded me a loy of a commedy series I...This post reminded me a loy of a commedy series I watch a couple of times, but I do not like, called the office, wherre it happens the kind of things you describe.<br />Thanks for t he post <br />MMariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-88804496706754490182009-07-15T08:06:31.771-07:002009-07-15T08:06:31.771-07:00ha ha ha:) you have workplace bullies and in my co...ha ha ha:) you have workplace bullies and in my college every lecture is like that!! :( i would like to open a champagne soon!Swethahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11399105855566223566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-30488430219511968022009-07-15T02:27:37.972-07:002009-07-15T02:27:37.972-07:00Have you heard the term, office pychopath, the beh...Have you heard the term, office pychopath, the behaviour you describe is getting a lot of attention, there are books out there giving advice on how to deal with these kinds of people. My partner had a horrible experience with an office pychopath a couple of years ago, they made him absolutely miserable. I have to say my current work place is the best I have ever worked in, and I have wondered why that is so, there is very little bitching. I remember your post on gossip and I have noticed that where I work people don't really gossip, they might let you know if someone is having a problem in there personal life but not in a nasty gossipy way, and there is only the occassional minor annoyance expressed, the general culture is one of support and respect. I feel very lucky, a negative work place and destructive collegues can make life unbearable. Good luck with dealing with the office pychopath, don't let them get to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-44486965633433038612009-07-15T01:03:43.954-07:002009-07-15T01:03:43.954-07:00You really don't want to know how I dealt with...You really don't want to know how I dealt with that sort of thing. I'll just say it wasn't with violence but rather by adapting a certain persons writings with steady application.<br /><br />http://www.chinapage.com/sunzi-e.html<br /><br />It is a war of sorts after all.the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-54003336445240174242009-07-15T01:01:16.101-07:002009-07-15T01:01:16.101-07:00I am reading through the comments and a lot of the...I am reading through the comments and a lot of them is discribing our workplace bully. Our CEO is an absolute control freak who thinks he is always right and should be in control all the time. He love to break us down, specially in front of other people. He has a year left on his contract and we will have a huge party when he is gone. Half the people here would leave tomorrow if they could get something else because of him.Firefly the Travel Guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03278794823093520621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-13664823688276520192009-07-14T20:37:43.782-07:002009-07-14T20:37:43.782-07:00I had a Workplace Bully Boss. She was nice to your...I had a Workplace Bully Boss. She was nice to your face and talked very bad things behind your back. I confronted her and well she no longer works there. heheAllen https://www.blogger.com/profile/02182296582387606080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-32077146559403740942009-07-14T18:11:59.694-07:002009-07-14T18:11:59.694-07:00unfortunately, my bully is my manager. No hope th...unfortunately, my bully is my manager. No hope there at all.Ruth W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02872826558388096728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-90826455971422836842009-07-14T18:01:09.140-07:002009-07-14T18:01:09.140-07:00Hope that retirement and the associated champagne ...Hope that retirement and the associated champagne comes quickly, very quickly !Owenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12622587942009516590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-21859730764917361392009-07-14T17:32:34.708-07:002009-07-14T17:32:34.708-07:00All my workplace bullies have been the owners, as ...All my workplace bullies have been the owners, as in those who can't work with others go into business for themselves. Needless to say, I've been fired a few times.Maureenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15671965875944032395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-88262577253474155102009-07-14T16:01:41.986-07:002009-07-14T16:01:41.986-07:00I guess I've been lucky not to have experience...I guess I've been lucky not to have experience the bullies. I'm like Russell. I put them in their place one time and let them know there won't be a 2nd time! It was unfortunate, but I had to do that with my partner's Mother, who bullied everyone else except for me.<br /><br />And I have a friend with s work place bully at s large office and the bully is upper management--an(electd official) and and never retires! She's way past retirement age too. I think she has no plan of returning.Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05514919047169081546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-54227563205753475942009-07-14T15:10:27.979-07:002009-07-14T15:10:27.979-07:00Good morning Jo,
thank you for reminding me about...Good morning Jo, <br />thank you for reminding me about the time, working in a local supermarket. The boss would call me into the office, to give me some work in the basement, which was always locked. He had the keys in his hand, reached out and the very moment I wanted to get them, they 'accidentally' fell down. Did bow silently and picked them up, next year left and started to study.<br />Learning that sometimes it's worth to bow, to rise afterwards higher than before.roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05457724318596670810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-21694697548673299952009-07-14T14:34:18.562-07:002009-07-14T14:34:18.562-07:00I worked with a woman who pretended to befriend me...I worked with a woman who pretended to befriend me, then tried to set me up to take the fall for her. This was in a pharmacy and when some narcotics went missing she insinuated that some innocent comments I had jokingly made made me the likely thief. There are cameras all over the place and of course they couldn't ever "catch" me. I was blissfully unaware of the "investigation" and found out about it later. She was the wife of a manager in another WalMart & thought herself to be above suspicion. Imagine my surprise a couple years ago when I stopped by my old workplace to discover that she was the thief and had been removed in handcuffs! I think I prefer the up front about it bully!Kathy's Klotheslinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17881966393157941515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-87043097832131727872009-07-14T14:23:45.413-07:002009-07-14T14:23:45.413-07:00It happens everywhere, even in school environments...It happens everywhere, even in school environments - one teacher pitted against others or an administrator who thinks he/she is so far above the lowly classroom teacher. My sister is currently in a similar situation in her office, with no support from anyone in any capacity so is contemplating early retirement and then working on call.Leslie:https://www.blogger.com/profile/11964698251137788839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-84238003287584540322009-07-14T13:59:26.640-07:002009-07-14T13:59:26.640-07:00Amen! I'm lucky to have a escaped a place cho...Amen! I'm lucky to have a escaped a place chock full of 'em!Laura Doylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14407229726272149440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-15178328868412263402009-07-14T13:02:24.738-07:002009-07-14T13:02:24.738-07:00Wow! Sounds like you struck a sore spot here! Lots...Wow! Sounds like you struck a sore spot here! Lots of bullies in this world! How sad! My daughter works with one, and it's tolerated because the woman does a good job in her area of expertise. So the company puts up with all the rest of her crap. Unbelievable. She feels that she has the right to rifle through everyone's desk, in box, etc. I am a wuss, but if I worked there, I'm not sure how much I could put up with that.Pathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17756564685282866773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-21944476529666652242009-07-14T12:54:26.435-07:002009-07-14T12:54:26.435-07:00My father, Izzy Kalman, has a wonderful guide to s...My father, Izzy Kalman, has a wonderful guide to stop being bullied in the workplace:<br /><br />http://www.bullies2buddies.com/Workplace-Bullying-and-Bullying-in-the-workplaceAyalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00455321244113772143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-23349150834234259232009-07-14T12:34:35.278-07:002009-07-14T12:34:35.278-07:00Bullies? Learned early in life that because I am s...Bullies? Learned early in life that because I am short, I needed a way to deal with them.<br /> <br />What to do, is to show them in different ways that you're not afraid of them. (hubby told his employer who has a habit of yelling, "If you do that to me, I'm walking off the job, right then and there - I will not put up with yelling).<br /><br />But even more important, I make fun of them, preferrably publicly! (to a 300 pound woman, who told everyone in which direction the "line" should go - NO ONE (very loudly so the whole line heard it) No one can tell me where to stand- and told my 14 year old daughter (whose eyes got really big) to stand however she liked.<br /><br /> - they mostly choose to leave you alone, because you become a pest, and they know you're going to broadcast their ridiculous actions.I doesn't pay to be nice or civil with some people. Although, when I get the chance, when I can talk to them privately, I let them know that they have become this way, because they once were scared of a bully (often one of their parents). Can't tell you how meek as little lambs they become, once you have told them that:)Jeannette StGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951617490107614687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-53961414221899211392009-07-14T12:08:31.055-07:002009-07-14T12:08:31.055-07:00I worked in Human Resources for 6 years - thank go...I worked in Human Resources for 6 years - thank goodness I handled benefits & NOT employee relations! I know that we took harassment complaints seriously & always investigated. But it's really hard to handle such complaints unless they're straightforward & have witnesses. Sometimes a person might complain about behavior that someone else wouldn't mind. But employees don't always report, or when they do, the bully has made sure that no one else witnessed... It's tough!The Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07509037206264761261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-74008571699041375742009-07-14T12:00:57.620-07:002009-07-14T12:00:57.620-07:00I hear you Jo. I don't really have any partic...I hear you Jo. I don't really have any particularly bad ones in there office where I work now, but there are a couple of fairly "agressive" girls. I don't let them intimidate me. However, my last job was another story. I worked in an automotive factory and some of those people (men AND women, I might add) were horrible. I put it down to the fact that they are very unhappy with their own lives and jobs and feel the need to see others miserable right along with them. For the most part I can ignore and avoid them and mind my own business (I am the master of avoidance) but when I lose it, LOOK OUT! I screamed at a few people when I had to stand up for myself and I'm glad I did it. I will never again allow myself to be bullied mercilessly, like I was as a child. I'm no child and I'm not powerless. I do not allow anyone to have that kind of power over me. I don't care if you're my coworker, a client, a supervisor or management. You don't get to abuse me. EVER!Avril Fleurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13139777746148763206noreply@blogger.com