tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post6335321947833357420..comments2024-01-30T05:22:06.674-08:00Comments on A Majority of Two: What Is Love?Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03382221688268676914noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-90578457092418408012009-01-31T20:57:00.000-08:002009-01-31T20:57:00.000-08:00Love,none of ever understand love, in its complete...Love,none of ever understand love, in its completely evolved meaning. Someday we might and I say might understand with more than our mind.Edward Yablonskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10013345997672210570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-34118679570800780632009-01-30T23:18:00.000-08:002009-01-30T23:18:00.000-08:00i have never felt that way. I dont know what love ...i have never felt that way. I dont know what love is, I dont understand it, an I'm not sure if I even believe in it. I cant say that I know many people who have found true love. But I hear those love songs, and read the stories that people write, and it gives me hope.For blue skies.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17145453959752217896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-18542645406501035992009-01-30T23:15:00.000-08:002009-01-30T23:15:00.000-08:00I'm still waiting, but I enjoyed your thought on t...I'm still waiting, but I enjoyed your thought on the subject, because mine are pretty screwed at this point...Lola's Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10680704900997368670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-685607281863572082009-01-29T10:39:00.000-08:002009-01-29T10:39:00.000-08:00Miost of us ,sad to say, will not find not only ou...Miost of us ,sad to say, will not find not only our complement love, but will not let our love evolve and mature.Edward Yablonskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10013345997672210570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-17767171787371048292009-01-29T08:50:00.000-08:002009-01-29T08:50:00.000-08:00Very true.... and It is a blessing to find the lov...Very true.... and It is a blessing to find the love of one's life, and get married to the same person...<BR/>I totally agree to:<BR/>"I think everyone should be fortunate enough to find that special someone who is exactly like them, who accepts them for themselves -- flaws and all. How many of you have found that? "<BR/><BR/>I'd like in to reply by<BR/>http://eye-spik.blogspot.com/2008/02/all-you-ever-wanted-to-know-about-love.html<BR/>and<BR/>http://eye-spik.blogspot.com/2008/07/date.htmldivineGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15491140638490880487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-6153870610063718482009-01-26T19:59:00.000-08:002009-01-26T19:59:00.000-08:00I believfe as we grow older our definition evolves...I believfe as we grow older our definition evolves and ripens as there are lower and higher loves. One post said "would you rather be right or happy? It's not a dichotomy .A love not rightly principled will sooner or later fail and unhappiness will ensue. That is the law of love and of the universe where love resonates as its heartbeat. Most people have not matured into this divine kind of love which is unconditional, unbiased and universal.Edward Yablonskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10013345997672210570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-7178010942807307842009-01-26T10:24:00.000-08:002009-01-26T10:24:00.000-08:00Panda Princess, I tried to post a comment to you b...Panda Princess, I tried to post a comment to you blog, but was not able to do so. I think you have the comments capability turned off.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03382221688268676914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-17589712854795567762009-01-26T10:21:00.000-08:002009-01-26T10:21:00.000-08:00Panda Princess, it sounds more as if the other per...Panda Princess, it sounds more as if the other person is not worthy of true love. I have a feeling you will find someone else!Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03382221688268676914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-39207811315838423732009-01-26T08:36:00.000-08:002009-01-26T08:36:00.000-08:00Love... Can we really find true love? I used to lo...Love... Can we really find true love? I used to love someone very deeply and I thought I'll end up marrying him and live happily ever after. But a 7 years of relationship was broken by an act of betrayal. And since then, I really wonder am I worth to have true love?Panda Princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00556614753914359503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-39909894193806350742009-01-26T05:26:00.000-08:002009-01-26T05:26:00.000-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Stupid common manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12332971168978923854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-57495821087283895672009-01-25T22:42:00.000-08:002009-01-25T22:42:00.000-08:00Meleofa, I think you are blessed. You have been f...Meleofa, I think you are blessed. You have been fortunate to find the one who is meant for you. I think for most people, that is very rare.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03382221688268676914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-27942988006775079822009-01-25T12:37:00.000-08:002009-01-25T12:37:00.000-08:00I feel I have found the love of my life. I'm only ...I feel I have found the love of my life. I'm only 26, but I married him when I had just turned 20. In the last 6 years, we've learned so much, and continue to learn so much, about each other. I remember a quote about love that said something about a strong love being one that although you and your love may change, it grows with the changes, or something like that. I feel ours in constantly growing, stretching, strengthening.<BR/><BR/>It's hard work, constant work, but the best work that I do. Appreciation, communication, and compromise. I can be who I am and do some dumb things, and he still loves me. He makes mistakes, I make mistakes. We are very different from each other, and often compliment each other. It's amazing to me that he knows the worst of me and it's not an issue. I feel so blessed to have him in my life. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09999911252000902645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-90690065957620336662009-01-25T10:44:00.000-08:002009-01-25T10:44:00.000-08:00CraftyMummy, oh, gosh! What a wonderful story. A...CraftyMummy, oh, gosh! What a wonderful story. And yes, the best relationships are the ones where there is a comfortable silence.<BR/><BR/>Nomore, yes, I agree. Love is a pleasure and also a gift. :-)<BR/><BR/>RisingRainbow, omygoodness, yes! No one is perfect, and we cannot expect perfection in other people any more than we can expect it in ourselves (nor they in us). So true!<BR/><BR/>Introspection, oh, gosh, your comment made me feel so sad. I wish you and your husband could find other people and be happy! Life is too short!<BR/><BR/>Lovelyprism, I think your story is the one everyone should be able to have. Life (and love) is not perfect, but to be so sure of your love, it must be a wonderful feeling.<BR/><BR/>Mark, <EM>"Love is more a star that has been there before I was born and will last long after I am gone than a plant that was grown in my lifetime for my lifetime."</EM> Oh, yes! Spoken like a true poet!<BR/><BR/>Kathy, oh yes! It must be wonderful to love and be loved in spite of and even perhaps because of your imperfections. You're so right, none of us is perfect, and no one should expect perfection. I think you have absolute true love!<BR/><BR/>BeNC, there is a poem by Tennyson: <EM>"I hold it true, whate'er befall;<BR/>I feel it, when I sorrow most;<BR/>'Tis better to have loved and lost<BR/>Than never to have loved at all."</EM> I have a feeling you will find love again.<BR/><BR/>LGS, you are so lucky to have found your soulmate. <EM>"Forgiveness is the band aid that holds it all together."</EM> Oh, goodness, yes. If we can't forgive each other for being human, then what else is there?<BR/><BR/>Russell, yes! <EM>"love means being able to be completely yourself and never having to think or wonder if what you are doing is okay - to be able to just be yourself... completely ... and not feeling like you have to be a certain way or not say this or not say that but can just be yourself..."</EM> It's lovely when someone can see into your soul, and still love you, isn't it?<BR/><BR/>Mary Ellen, yes, I agree. Our fathers create sort of a "benchmark" don't they? I find myself drawn to someone who is very much like my father, in almost every way! (I'm glad you enjoyed the movie...)<BR/><BR/>AdventureGirl, Hi! Nice to see you again. And yes, I think we have all experienced an awful relationship with someone who was ... awful. We just have to move on.<BR/><BR/>Kristy, thank you! And you're welcome! :-)Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03382221688268676914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-63921636388575442272009-01-25T09:34:00.000-08:002009-01-25T09:34:00.000-08:00Great blog, Jo. Thanks for pouring it out there.Great blog, Jo. Thanks for pouring it out there.Kristy Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15230287677733970191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-81625348915139517342009-01-25T09:28:00.000-08:002009-01-25T09:28:00.000-08:00I def have NOT found that. But one thing you didn'...I def have NOT found that. But one thing you didn't speak to was those that think they found it, are hopelessly in love but the one they marry turns out an awful person. That has happened to me. <BR/><BR/>I haven't been blogging much lately. Not a lack of love for you Jo Jo. My, my.........you have exploded since I was here last~ Over 500 followers. Your a rock star blogger. I have to laugh at all the posts you have done about quiting blogging;) Happy Sunday!Adventure girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04461646876807774308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-3689792349714238672009-01-25T07:40:00.000-08:002009-01-25T07:40:00.000-08:00I've always thought that girls are always looking ...I've always thought that girls are always looking for someone like their daddy, not the way he looks, but someone who has similar morals,character, or sense of humor. <BR/><BR/>As far as whether I've found that soul-mate kind of love...I've been married for almost 36 years and I'm still trying to figure that out. Give me another 30 years and maybe I'll know by then. ;-)<BR/><BR/>(btw- I rented the movie, The Visitor last night, it was really good. Thanks for the heads up on that.)Mary Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07835150057881066641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-68684335950051847912009-01-25T06:24:00.000-08:002009-01-25T06:24:00.000-08:00Russell...!Exactly. That's what I believe Love is....Russell...!<BR/>Exactly. That's what I believe Love is. And I have never felt as myself in 29 years.introspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10820207734329529880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-77417142537646903472009-01-25T05:52:00.000-08:002009-01-25T05:52:00.000-08:00Remember Ryan O'Neil and Ali MacGraw in Eric Segal...Remember Ryan O'Neil and Ali MacGraw in Eric Segal's Love Story? I think I saw that book everywhere (!!) and the movie was, well, pretty popular (!). The popular line was "Love means never having to say your're sorry."<BR/><BR/>True... love means being able to be completely yourself and never having to think or wonder if what you are doing is okay - to be able to just be yourself... completely ... and not feeling like you have to be a certain way or not say this or not say that but can just be yourself (and can use run on sentences!)...<BR/><BR/>Love means ... being able to be yourself.Russellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11072219347283927398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-82187686526117294542009-01-25T02:54:00.000-08:002009-01-25T02:54:00.000-08:00My wife and I are "soul mates" on the things that ...My wife and I are "soul mates" on the things that matter but are also tolerant of each others quirks and annoyances, preferring to highlight how our differences complement rather than just dwelling on our differences. It's great but it is also hard work. It doesn't just happen. Forgiveness is the band aid that holds it all together.Lone Grey Squirrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16892067644551128013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-9304326828144022282009-01-25T02:36:00.000-08:002009-01-25T02:36:00.000-08:00I once thought that I have found my true love, but...I once thought that I have found my true love, but when time is passed for about a year, things started to change. Although I loved her unconditionally, but the Goddess of Love was not on our side...<BR/><BR/>I really thought that I would marry her one day and live happily ever after.BeNChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07919144642646113236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-10494956635159408182009-01-25T01:11:00.000-08:002009-01-25T01:11:00.000-08:00Very thought provoking, and very personal post.I a...Very thought provoking, and very personal post.I am married to my high school sweetheart. I had a crush on him from afar, then...we dated and married. 37 years , 3 children and 8 grandchildren, tragedy, comedy , near poverty, I cannot imagine a life with anyone else. He is faithful, loving, kind, forgiving. Perfect...no. But neither am I, and he loves me anyway.<BR/><BR/>I am reminded of the scene in "Fiddler On The Roof", where Tevya and his wife are asking each other if they love each other and the ensuing song..."but do you love me?..."<BR/><BR/>For me it all comes down to what your definition of 'love' is. Is love defined by how well YOU are feeling about the relationship,what you alone gain, or by a mutual self-sacrificing relationship that looks to the well being of your partner as well as yourself?KathyB.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13076933273610590290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-53962058933785687522009-01-25T00:32:00.000-08:002009-01-25T00:32:00.000-08:00To me? Love is more a star that has been there bef...To me? <BR/><BR/>Love is more a star that has been there before I was born and will last long after I am gone than a plant that was grown in my lifetime for my lifetime.<BR/><BR/>Both are very good and free for living through; if one but opens up to the frailty of nature and humanity.the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-79537104642171452622009-01-25T00:25:00.000-08:002009-01-25T00:25:00.000-08:00Wow, I am amazed by some of these answers. The day...Wow, I am amazed by some of these answers. The day I met my husband, I went home and told my Mother "Today I met the man I'm going to marry." I was 15 years old, so of course she laughed at me. We have now been married 21 years. Some days (that probably add up to some years!) it's not so easy. People grow and change and maybe sometimes after they change they are not so compatible.( My husband's nickname is now "Asshole" said in the most loving way possible lol) I have often wondered if marriage comes with an expiration date, like milk. LOL But when I seriously think about it, I cannot imagine a life without him. Not alone and not with someone else. So even on the 'not so easy' days I am grateful for the life I have lived and the life I have today. We did all of this together so I am grateful not to him alone,but rather to US. :)lovelyprismhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09288078574913082064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-30418811495277906872009-01-24T22:36:00.000-08:002009-01-24T22:36:00.000-08:00I have never experienced true love. So I dont know...I have never experienced true love. So I dont know what it feels like to be in love/to be loved. But I know it exists and I really envy those that have got it. I have been married for 29 years. Initially I thought that we had it going, but somewhere very early in life I discovered it was a myth. In the country where I come from we do not normally get in/out of marriages so easily. But I have the most wonderful 2 children in the world. I adore them to no end.<BR/>They are the soul of my existence though I do not live with them. Other than that my married life is pathetic. Jo! you truly said, "It's like living a slow death...." The married life that I lead is pathetic. Though we are both well educated good human beings; we are just not compatible ...!<BR/>But life goes on - even with all it's insecurities, lapses, and errors.introspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10820207734329529880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1518800171649154035.post-62595739170040646102009-01-24T22:31:00.000-08:002009-01-24T22:31:00.000-08:00I think everyone's idea of love is different. Some...I think everyone's idea of love is different. Some have unrealistic expectations, so they never find it. Others don't have expectations high enough so they never find it either. <BR/><BR/>I think the trick is being able to understand that love isn't perfect. It's gonna have its ups and downs. We, humans, are flawed and our relationships are going to be affected by that. <BR/><BR/>I think real love happens between those that can find their way through the conflicts that arise because of those flaws and still come out the other side caring for the other person and their welfare.<BR/><BR/>It's when people get lost in themselves and what they want and need without being able to see what their partner might want or need that things don't work so well.<BR/><BR/>For me, it's been 32 years of marriage and we're still getting through our rough spots and working towards a common dream.Rising Rainbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04239592070775412669noreply@blogger.com