I'm almost afraid to say "Thank you" to anyone anymore, because I know I am going to be greeted with But "No problemo...?"
Last night I was watching the last part of Julian Fellowes' "Titanic". It was wonderful. It was bascially "Downton Abbey" at sea, with many of the same actors, and all the Edwardian finery and grandeur. In one scene, a young woman in first class accommodation was looking after another woman's three-year old daughter while the mother went topside to see what was going on. When the mother returned to the cabin to retrieve her daughter, she thanked the woman.
"No problem..."
Hey, wait a minute. This is 1912, the height of the Edwardian era, the gilded age of manners and decorum.
"No problem...?"
I laughed. "No problem" has become part of the modern lexicon, and we're stuck with it. And it's really okay in informal situations. But it's lovely to hear the exchange, "Thank you," and the reply "You're welcome". The English language has so many subtleties, and "No problem" actually does sound as if it is a problem. The person was accommodating, but -- sigh -- it really was a problem. In my opinion, "You're welcome" sounds gracious and affable. There is a subtle difference. I could be wrong; I usually am... but I rather like "You're welcome". It's cheerful.Thank you for allowing me to vent.
I agree, but find myself doing it! I taped all the episodes as I want to watch it all in one go...don't give away the ending, please! lol
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ReplyDelete"No problem" doesn't cut it for me either. And caboosing it with an "o" makes me cringe!
ReplyDeleteJust to have someone acknowledge your thank you suits.
ReplyDeleteYou are welcome!
ReplyDeleteOh Please, give me well-mannered any day and my life will be merry. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteGood catch at 'the Abbey."
ReplyDeleteAh, language is always evolving. . . I hear you though
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Hey man, that's radical, you know?! Give me five! Wait ... I think THAT is outdated now. Heh!
ReplyDeleteIn any event, I agree that basic manners seems to have .... left the building. I read many college papers every week and young people can no longer write a basic sentence.
Common courtesy seems to be hard to find, too. When was the last time a retail clerk actually counted back your change (assuming she was not upset you actually used ... cash!) and then looked you in the eyes and said "thank you"?
But, hey, just be cool. Everything's groovy.
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I will be sure to say You're Welcome today. :-)
ReplyDeleteWhen someone thanks me it is normal for me to say you're welcome but to my ear it sounds as if I am saying yer welcome...and I do at times practice speech elocution. Grrr
ReplyDeleteYou are most welcome. It was my pleasure to read your post today.
ReplyDeleteMy personal annoyance with other peoples manners is not language but action. I am astounded by those folks who mutter "excuse me" or "pardon" and then proceed to bowl you over without giving you the opportunity to get out of their way. Like "no problem' their action seems to indicate they once were taught the civilities but they have forgotten the subtlties of manners.
Or Not a Problem.
ReplyDeleteIn Scotland it's more likely to be "Nae bother".
But what abot the over-use of "ABSOLUTELY!" when agreeing with a statement? Annoying, very.
And Jo, as far as the Titanic being Downton Abbey afloat I agree, but I found it unexciting and somewhat boring. Viewing stats showed a drop from 6 million to under 3 million. Maybe we'll have Titanic the Musical next?
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ReplyDeleteI've always said 'thank you' - that no problem (or problemo) has come from people I know that are about 20 years younger than I am, so I chuckled when you said you heard it in a 1912 movie - probably suited maybe for the effort of looking for the little baby, and that's how the script-writer chose to express it. Nevertheless, I think for common usage, 'thank you' is much more pleasing.
I watched another Titanic movie made in 1943 - it was much more inviting to me because they showed more of the facts; they all exhibited a certain calm and strength, and it seemed more like how people would act to aid each other (as well as those who scrambled against each other so they could have a chance to live).
Granted, I missed that lovely music of the current Titanic, but I'd still watch the other one more than once if I had my choice.
Jo you said:
ReplyDelete"Thank you for allowing me to vent."
No problem!
My improvement to the language would be to limit the use of the word "like" to once a day for anyone under the age of 40.
Like dude...like your post, like so typical of like your posts, like it was so like...like so awesome. Like it was the, like best thing since, like, canned beer.
Wonderful post, and I totally agree! For me, there is a problem with "no problem." "You're welcome" is the gracious and validating way to go - IMHO.
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way about this. "You're welcome" says what it's intended to say w/o being guessed at or misinterpreted.
ReplyDeletehi Josie, i agree with you--manners never go out of style. i hope all is well with you.
ReplyDeleteI heard someone clearly under fifty respond with "My pleasure" and I nearly fell over. PhilH hit the two things I've noticed, "not a problem" and "absolutely."
ReplyDeleteI was with family at an Italian restaurant and we got the giggles because our waiter responded with "absolutely" to everything. "I'll have chicken marsala." "Absolutely". "May I have some more ice water?" "Absolutely." "I believe I ordered the chicken and he had the fish." "Absolutely."
"Thanks." "Absolutely."
Then he asked me if my food was okay and it blurted, "Absolutely," and the family burst out laughing and the poor guy was confused.
I have trouble with how quickly the vernacular is changing. I HATE saying something funny and having someone SAY to me "LOL."
Okay. I am a geezer, so I'm going to stop.
What I hate is when one says "thank you" and the response is "thank YOU." It's like a contest of who is being more polite. I always make an effort to say "you're welcome" to keep it in the language. Do you think we have a fighting chance?
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