What do you see when you look at this glass? Is it half full, or is it half empty? I prefer to see it as half full. Seeing the glass as half full is a choice we can all make. If we count our blessings, most of us will discover we have more blessings than we realize. I feel very bad for people who don't understand this concept, who can only see the glass as half empty. They judge their lives by what they don't have, rather than by what they do have.
My grandmother used to say, "Never trouble trouble until trouble troubles you." That's very good advice. It's all relative. If people are going to be sad and angry over the small things in life, how are they going to cope with the really important things? Anger is one of the most useless emotions, and I have seen anger ruin lives.
Anger is a natural part of the human psyche, a response to fight or flight, and it is necessary when one is being attacked by a sabre-tooth tiger or a Tyrannosaurus rex. Both humans and animals behave the same way when they're angry; they make loud sounds, attempt to look physically larger, bare their teeth, and stare. It's frightening for the people around them -- who often get angry in return, thereby escalating the already volatile situation. Anger begets anger. Folks become afraid of the anger because they never know when it is going to strike. My mother was angry and yelling all the time, and we were constantly on tenterhooks. Because our mother was always angry, we thought she didn't love us, or even like us. It changed who we were.
"People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing." ~~ Will Rogers
We all get angry occasionally; it's human nature. But there are varying degrees of anger, starting with mild annoyance, all the way to rage. Annoyance can be headed off at the pass before it becomes uncontrollable rage. Anger has an adverse effect not only on the victims, but on the person who is angry. Heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline increase. There is a theory that the "shot" of adrenaline becomes addictive, and the angry person needs more and more, much like any addict. They become addicted to the "rush" of their anger.
"Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools." ~~ Albert Einstein
"Once we fully accept other people as they are without the slightest judgement or reservation – as all the enlightened beings accept us – then there is no basis for problems in our relations with others. Problems do not exist outside our mind, so when we stop seeing other people as problems they stop being problems. The person who is a problem to a non-accepting mind does not exist in the calm, clear space of patient acceptance.
Patient acceptance not only helps us, it also helps those with whom we are patient. Being accepted feels very different to being judged. When someone feels judged they automatically become tight and defensive, but when they feel accepted they can relax, and this allows their good qualities to come to the surface. Patience always solves our inner problems, but often it solves problems between people as well." ~~ Anger Management Techniques
People who are quick to anger don't understand how hurtful and painful their anger is, especially on the people who love them the most. It's confusing and distressing for everyone, but anger is also so easy to control. It's so easy...
"Temper tantrums, however fun they may be to throw, rarely solve whatever problem is causing them." ~~ Lemony Snicket