Vincent van Gogh
Tomorrow is the first day of spring, and I have decided to make a whole new paradigm shift in my life. I have decided to stop being around people who really don't like me. We all have them in our lives -- family members, co-workers -- people who barely tolerate us, and in that subliminal intolerance, they make us feel like pond scum.
Rapport is a strange, elusive thing that we either have with someone, or we don't. Someone once wisely said, "We can't make people love us, but we can make them hate us..." It's very true. It's puzzling when someone doesn't like us. We wonder why. But there it is -- they don't like us. Period. It is depessing as h*ll to be around people with whom our every word and every movement is questioned. "Why did you do that? Why did you say that? What do you mean by that...?" It can drain the lifeforce out of us.
In the alternative, when we are around people who like us -- who see who we are -- we feel good about ourselves. I have friends like that. They see me, they know me and they like me. And I enjoy being around them. It is a nourishing to our souls to be with people with whom we can be ourselves, unconditionally and without fear of judgement. They know we have no hidden agendas, no covert strategies or plans, just "what you see is what you get."
My plan for this day forward is to spend my time with people who nurture my soul, and for whom I can return the favour. Life is too short to spend any time with people who do not like me, starting tomorrow when I'm going to tell our department manager