Deborah Kerr was a classy broad, and she loved it when people referred to her that way. She was beautiful and elegant, but she could also tell a good, bawdy joke and all her male co-stars fell in love with her. Deborah Kerr has always been my hero, and whenever I am in a questionable situation, I always ask myself, "What would Deborah Kerr do...?" When I was a little girl, my mother always used to tell me that no matter what a woman does, she should never be "common" or "tacky", and although I am far from perfect -- far from it -- I try always to follow that advice.
I feel powerless when I see folks I care about embarrassing themselves. I want to say to them, "Would Deborah Kerr do that...?" But I can't say anything. I have to sit and watch -- like watching a slow train wreck. It's not my place to tell them that, perhaps, they should reel it in a little bit. *sigh* Everyone is different, but as long as people's hearts are in the right place, that's all that counts. We can watch the people we care about guilelessly carry on just as they are, and we can just shut up and love them anyway. That's what Deborah Kerr would do.